A mindful traveller, perpetual wanderer, part time meditator and newbie blogger

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A dog’s bollocks post for a pretty dope friend

The motivation behind this blog was how one women inspired me. It seems only right that I mention other people that have inspired me in similar ways

Life can hand out some crazy shit to us all and quite often, there are one or two connections that come into our life just at the very perfect moment. This was unexpected as my years in Chiang Mai has seen me make many friends, but very few I had a real connection, a real bond with. Up until now, I accepted that it was rare to come across a friendship like this while travelling. But but but, back in November, a stocky, bearded guy from California arrived in Chiang Mai.

He arrived as a stranger. He left with me calling him a brother.

If you stood us side my side you probably wouldn’t think we had too much in common. This is simply because, on some level, we didn’t. He is highly motivated and driven. I however, lack motivation if there is no instant reward. He drinks shots of wheatgrass. I drink shots of Jim Beam. He practices yoga, fitness and meditation. I am lazy, love to sleep and, up until lately, have been a part-time meditator. He wakes up at the crack of dawn. I press the snooze button several times before I wake up momentarily hating the world and it’s early morning singing birds.

However,

Despite all these differences; we shared a connection. A connection I can only relate to having with my own brother or sister. I was at a point in my life where I was in desperate need of family, but had chosen to return to Chiang Mai. I naively returned, in an attempt to chase my previous life, not knowing how desperately I would need unconditional acceptance of my emotions and behaviours. This is what family is for right? Well, he come along and very early on gave me the green light that I could be myself, no matter what mood I was in. Every aspect of me, it seemed, was accepted; my sadness, my lost’ness, my British’ness, my sense of humour and, to some extent, my decision to buy Nong-B.

We ate. We cried. We ate. We laughed. We helped. We chatted. We tripped. We inspired. We taught. We learned. We meditated. We tilted. We shouted. Loud. Once. We ate. We chatted.

But, like all things in this chaotic and swirly life of ours, things inevitably change and last week, he left. His purpose of being here in Chiang Mai was fulfilled. It was time for him to hug the ocean in Bali, touch base with his family and live out his dream of beginning a life in Southern California, or ‘So Caaal’. Innit?

The day he left I posted a note on his Facebook wall for all to see. I had this urge to let his friends and family know how much he had supported and inspired me during his time in Thailand. Due to my laziness and the efficiency, these days, of copy and paste, here is the post::

Brother….
Normally i’d keep this more personal, but I want people that know you to know this.
You came into my life back in November2011 and for me, it was perfect timing. I was going through a dark time in my life, lost in an ocean of sadness with very little direction. I reached out to you and you gave me a much needed hand, filled with compassion, respect and brutal honesty. You were not afraid of my darkness and accepted the dark night I was, and still am, enduring. This hand showed me light and prevented me drowning in my sadness. Something I will be forever grateful for.
I respect and admire your drive and motivation in this life and it will always inspire me. You have been on a journey for the last five years and I feel you have reached a point in this life while being out here in Asia. I’m proud of you man.
I know and understand we are different on a certain level (fitness and health, hmm and EGO), but the level of consciousness, outlook on life and love we are on the same page man. We have the ability to love, the ability to connect and the ability to feel. We feel pain to an inexpressible amount, but we also feel love in the exact same way. Through this, we have shared a connection that I can now call you a brother.
Take it easy bro. Enjoy Bali. Enjoy life.
I’ll see ya on the other side
“Never try, never know”

Now, he has gone. However, in the last few months we have knotted, not only a friendship, but a brotherly bond that equals only to that of my own brother and sister.

P’Adam, brother, I am forever grateful.

PS Gonna miss ya on the other side of this world, but i’ll catch ya in ‘So Cal’.

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Live your passions. Live your dreams. Live your life.

(from the Ancient Greek verb πάσχω (paskho) meaning to suffer) is a term applied to a very strong feeling about a person or thing. Passion is an intense emotion, compelling feeling, enthusiasm, or desire to do something.

What are my passions in life?

Can I have more than one?

Living your life everyday with a compelling feeling, enthusiasm and desire to do something is an amaaazin way to be living a life. Who’s life?

Your life!

I have found various passions in life from swimming, teaching, travelling and SCUBA diving.

Swimming gives me freedom to move in all directions, on all planes. It allows me to defy gravity.

Teaching kids inspirazzles me with their innocence and naivety. It confuzzles and baffles me.

Travelling has got me intertwined in this never-ending continuum of, “the more I experience, the more I wanna experience”.

SCUBA diving has shown me a fascinating, beautiful and curious world working in complete harmony. I used to dream of having gills when I was a young swimmer. I feel this is the closest I’m gonna get. 

It’s important to have passions in life, but keep them rational. Too avoid emptiness and suffering it is equally important to accept that one day these passions and desires may not be possible anymore.

May I take this opportunity to introduce an amazing friend Marlies Tumolo to you. She has entered a competition (The Best Dive Job in the World) that allows her merge her passion of teaching and her newly found passion of SCUBA.

Watch her video.

If you SCUBA dive you will understand her. If you do not then just look at her smiles as she speaks passionately about SCUBA diving. As a passionate SCUBA diver, there couldn’t be a better person.

If you have a few moments, I just want a few clicks of the mouse and a few tap tap taps of the keyboard and ask you to visit the site link and vote for her with any comments.

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A few clicks and taps from you may change someone’s life forever.

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